Studies show that it generally takes between two and five years for a blended family to transition successfully. The first few years may prove difficult for some families, but when members of the family recognize that the new family will not be the same as the previous family, learn to respect each other, acknowledge the time needed to accept the changes and give new relationships time to form, they will often be able to succeed as a family.
Praise, encouragement, and demonstrated affection may all help ease the concerns of children who are reluctant to trust a stepparent or who are worried that a biological parent might come to love them less. Parents may also wish to reassure their children that they will answer any questions and discuss any feelings the children might have.
Counseling before a remarriage that will result in a blended family and during the transition process may help ease the tensions that often arise in newly blended families.
Parents face the challenge of sorting out their new roles and setting boundaries with regards to parenting, discipline, on financial obligation, and time. Family therapy can help address these issues, and a therapy session also provides a platform for each member to voice his or her feelings in a respectful way. Parents might also learn ways to maintain a healthy relationship with their children while building a new and loving bond with their spouse and stepchildren.